24 Dec 11 Essential Questions Leaders Should Ask Their Coach or Mentor

Leadership is no walk in the park. It’s more like hiking a mountain—steep, unpredictable, and requiring a good guide to make it to the summit. That’s where a coach or mentor comes in. Trusted advisors help leaders navigate challenges, maximise potential, and stay aligned with their goals.

What’s often unexpected is that coaching and mentoring are only as effective as the questions asked. Curious about how to make the most of your sessions? Let’s consider the essential questions every leader should ask to unlock growth and insight.

Why Are Questions So Vital in Coaching and Mentoring?

Coaching isn’t about getting all the answers handed to you. It’s about self-discovery and engaging with the process and often the asking of the right question that sparks and ignites an “aha” moment. Great questions bring clarity, uncover blind spots, and drive actionable insights.

In fact, according to a recent study by the International Journal of Evidence-Based Coaching and Mentoring (2022), *78% of leaders reported enhanced decision-making and problem-solving abilities after reflective questioning is incorporated in sessions.

1. What Should I Be Prioritising Right Now?

Life as a leader can feel like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle. With so many tasks vying for attention, how do you know where to focus?

Asking this question helps you gain clarity on what matters most – whether it’s team development, strategic goals, or managing your own wellbeing. With the aid of a partner offering a bird’s-eye view, it helps you identify the areas that most deserve your energy.

Tip:

Ask yourself “What’s the one thing that would make the biggest impact if I executed it this month?”

2. How Can I Align My Actions with My Values?

Leadership without alignment is like trying to sail a boat without a compass. This question pushes you to reflect on your core values and ensures your decisions and behaviours stay true to them.

Your coach can help you identify instances where actions might be veering off course and guide you in recalibrating.  Leading with authenticity inspires trust and loyalty within your team.

3. What Blind Spots Might I Be Overlooking?

We all have blind spots – it’s human nature. But in leadership, ignorance isn’t bliss; it’s a potential disaster.

Your coach should act like a mirror, reflecting back the behaviours, attitudes, or habits you might not even realise are holding you back. Asking about blind spots shows self-awareness and a willingness to improve, both hallmarks of a great leader.

Tip:

Be open to constructive feedback. It’s not always easy to hear, but it’s worth its weight in gold

4. How Can I Handle Conflict More Effectively?

Conflict is inevitable when you’re dealing with diverse personalities and high-stakes decisions. But are you managing it, or avoiding it?

This question digs into how you approach disagreements, offering strategies to turn conflict into an opportunity for growth. Whether it’s learning how to listen actively or improving your emotional intelligence, your coach can guide you to handle tough situations with finesse.

5. How Do I Develop My Team for Long-Term Success?

Leadership isn’t just about your personal growth; it’s about lifting others, too. Ask your mentor how to identify and nurture talent within your team.

Great follow-ups include:

• “How do I delegate more effectively?”
• “What’s the best way to provide constructive feedback?”

Your mentor’s experience can provide a treasure trove of practical advice here.

6. What Does Success Look Like for Me?

This one’s a game-changer. Success isn’t one-size-fits-all, and defining what it means for you is crucial.

Your coach can help you envision a future where professional achievements align with personal fulfilment. Challenging you to think big while staying grounded in your values and circumstances.

7. How Do I Navigate Change and Uncertainty?

The modern workplace is constantly evolving, and leaders need to adapt or risk falling behind. This question explores how you can remain resilient and proactive during times of flux.

Your mentor might share frameworks for decision-making or techniques for maintaining calm and clarity in turbulent times.

8. How Can I Avoid Burnout and Maintain Balance?

Leadership can be draining. Long hours, tough decisions, and constant pressure take their toll.

By asking this question, you’re acknowledging the importance of self-care.  Working with a coach who has first-hand experience and that can recommend useful and diverse strategies in areas such as time management, delegation, adaptability and inclusivity techniques to help you recharge and maintain longevity in your role

9. What Can I Do to Improve My Communication Skills?

Communication is at the heart of effective leadership. Whether it’s motivating your team, pitching to stakeholders, or resolving conflicts, the way you express yourself matters.

A coach supports you with refining your skills, from delivering feedback tactfully to crafting compelling messages that inspire action.

10. How Can I Build a Stronger Network?

No leader operates in a vacuum. Asking about networking strategies can help you foster meaningful connections that advance your career and benefit your organisation.

Your mentor can share insights on everything from attending industry events to building genuine relationships with colleagues and peers.

11. What Legacy Do I Want to Leave as a Leader?

This might sound like a big, existential question, but it’s an important one. Your leadership legacy isn’t just about what you achieve – it’s about the impact you leave behind.

Reflecting on this can help you lead with purpose, ensuring every decision contributes to the bigger picture.

Shaping Your Leadership Journey

Coaching and mentoring aren’t just about solving today’s problems; they’re about building a foundation for long-term success. By asking the right questions, you unlock deeper insights, refine your leadership style, and foster growth for yourself and those you lead.

Leadership isn’t a solo sport. A good coach or mentor can be the partner you need to tackle challenges, achieve your goals, align with values and leave a meaningful legacy.

At Foord Coaching and Consulting, we specialise in helping leaders ask the right questions, find clarity, and thrive. Visit our website today and complete the enquiry form to start your journey.

FAQs

1. What’s the difference between a coach and a mentor?
   A coach helps you discover answers within yourself, focusing on skills and growth. A mentor, on the other hand, shares their experience and provides guidance based on their own journey.
2. How do I know if I need a coach or a mentor?
   It depends on your goals. If you want personalised development and accountability, go for a coach. If you’re seeking industry-specific insights, a mentor might be the better fit.
3. How often should I meet with my coach or mentor?
   Typically, once a month. However, frequency depends on your needs and the intensity of your goals.

By asking better questions, you’ll find better answers. Start your journey with Foord Coaching and Consulting today.